What if: A note on perspective and slowing down

What if? A question we often find ourselves debating throughout our day.

What if they say no?              What if it doesn’t work out?

What if they find out the truth about me and leave?            What if, what if, what if?

I’m exhausted already! How about you? Are you feeling anxious and emotionally spent? If it’s okay with you, I invite you to take a moment away from asking these what ifs and do a little experiment with me. If you’re not ready, that’s okay. Thank yourself for reading this far and know that all of our beginnings are different. We will end up exactly where we need to be, when we need to be there.

If you’re ready, let’s try something new. Of course, this may not be new to everyone, maybe you’ve had a few moments here and there where you were able to set aside this type of what if and have a moment of presence or a moment of acceptance.

Below are a few different types of what ifs. If it feels good: read it, take a moment, close your eyes and allow yourself to sit with it. If you feel inspired, you may even consider writing about your experience. Pace yourself, take your time.

*What if I am okay just as I am? Without the achievements, assets and external “value adds”?

*What if I could accept myself in this moment? This hour? This day?

*What if I could accept love from another without needing to be or do anything other than who I am?

*What if the negative qualities I believe about myself are not accurate?

*What if I can survive the pain I feel in this moment?

*What if I believe in myself?

Now, take a moment.

Take a deep breath.

Thank yourself for this time, this patience and attention you are giving yourself. Check in with yourself; either by thinking or writing down your thoughts about the following questions.

How was this? How do I feel different than before I asked myself these questions? How do I perceive this/these differences? What do I need now?

Once you have completed this contemplation, you have completed the experiment! Thank you for opening yourself up and taking the time to try something new or familiar.

May you be well. May you be at peace. May you experience joy.

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